A Promise of Recommitment

The Wedding Day is one of the most important days in a couple’s relationship, because it represents the moment that they exchange their vows and enter into the sacred covenant of marriage. As a couple moves forward and lives out their wedding vows, I believe it’s important to have moments of recommitment and renewal along the way. By taking the time to make new promises to one another while building on the promises you made at first, you will be taking your relationship to new levels of health and vitality.

There are plenty of “Wedding Vows” out there, but “Renewal Vows” are harder to find, so let me share some. I encourage you to exchange these promises (or your own version of them) with your spouse as a special way to begin a new season of growth in your marriage. Whether you exchange these words in a public ceremony or sitting on your couch in private, I believe your marriage will benefit from this promise of recommitment.

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“Today, I recommit myself to God, to you and to our marriage. I ask your forgiveness for the wrongs I have committed and I promise to do my best never to repeat them. I will strive to be the one who wipes away your tears and not the one who causes them. I freely forgive you for any wrongs you have committed and I promise to let go of any past hurts and unresolved anger I’ve carried so that our relationship can move forward with renewed grace and healing.

promise to always see the best in you and to strive to become the best spouse I can possibly be. I will never again say the word, “divorce,” or to see separation as an option in our relationship. I vow to be your partner, your biggest fan and your best friend no matter what life throws our way. I commit to creating new memories together that will be filled with joy and laughter. I resolve to build my life and our family on a firm foundation of faith in God and His word. Because I am imperfect, I know I will make mistakes, but when I do, I promise to admit it openly, to take full responsibility and to humbly seek your forgiveness. I will never again allow anyone or anything to become more important than my relationship with God and my relationship with you. I wholeheartedly recommit my love and my life to you, ’til death do us part!”

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28 thoughts on “A Promise of Recommitment

  1. Regine Coriolan

    You have no idea the pain Im feeling inside because of the way my husband to is treating me. The thing is I don’t think he realized. But after reading this vow, it gaves me strenghts, because there are some good things, positive things about my relationship. But it is so hard at times to remember and for me that was a reminder of my love for him.

    Thank you


    1. neece

      Regine, I feel you on this. Marriage is hard when one spouse is in pain and the other spouse doesn’t see it or get it . We need to encourage one another to be strong. Sometimes you just need to talk to someone who can relate without being judged.

    2. Tatiana

      I am going thru a horrible time in my marriage and this is hope for me.

    3. Cassie

      5 months ago, my heart was hurting from the state of my marriage. Don’t give up and truly look to God for what you should be doing. That is what I did and God changed mine and my husbands heart and things are completely different and so much better. Don’t forget God can do anything!

    4. Thabo

      I can relate to what you are feeling and going through. It is really difficult and I believe only God can heal and restore what has been lost.

  2. Martha

    Love this.. We might have to use this when the time comes for us to renew our vows. My husband and I will have been married for 23 years May 19. Thank you for sharing. God Bless.


  3. Jennie

    Those are great thinks so much for sharing those and everythimg else you do!! My husband and I are going thru a ruff patch and you posts help tremendously!!!


  4. florry

    These are lovely words, i must admit, but what happens when the marriage itself was built on deception and not love!!! what do you do?


    1. Shay

      You have to ask yourself then do you love your spouse now? Have you fallen in love with them since?? It says to forgive all wrong doings. Each an everyday is a new day.

    2. M L Carnley

      after affairs it is very difficult to rebuid. especially when it feels like i am the one working hard to keep the marriage. and He was the one in all the affairs.

  5. Joshua

    How do I get my future wife to beleav and see that I truly love her and want to be with me? And how do I get her to open up to me and talk to me more?


  6. Leslie R

    I love them. Thank you so much. My husband and I have recently went through a rough patch and I was ready to walk away. But I love him and we have been together for 14 yrs, just wasnt ready to throw it all away. He asked me to remarry him so these recommitment vows will be perfect and they say everything I need to say.


  7. Tatiana

    The hurt I am experiencing right now its beyond comprehension…. I love my husband with all my heart but now I only get a cold shoulder and a nice roommate…. our anniversary is this friday and I am going to give this to him.


    1. Ashley

      I feel your pain… 9 years together and 2 children and my husband told me last night that he loves me but the feelings “just aren’t there” Now what?

  8. Nicole Landers

    I could not have read this at a better time. I felt like my marriage was falling apart but this gives me hope.


  9. Michael Cozine

    I pray every day for the strength of these words and the hope that my beautiful wife will finally embrace the incredible opportunity we have as a committed couple…I’m praying she will renew our vows on our 14th anniversary in July…these words and sentiments will be what I vow as an effort to resurrect our relationship!!!!…thank you


  10. Manda

    I would love to hear these vows from my husband. I’ve been hurt in so many ways and this would really help me through the pain.

    I wish more men would read these articles but when they don’t see what is wrong when you think they should it’s hard to get them to read things such as this.

    Thanks for sharing!


  11. Angie Neil

    I would give anything if my husband and I could do this. He left me and filed for divorce. I love him with all my heart and I do not want a divorce. He is with another woman and will not even talk to me. We have 3 girls ages 6, 12, and 16. We have been married for almost 17 years. I miss him and forgive him. He was always the best husband and daddy any wife could ask for, then one day he just left. I do not understand. I keep praying he will wake up and come home.


  12. Melissa

    I, too, would love to hear these words from my husband, the past 2 yrs have really been rough on our marriage and we just celebrated our 25th in November. I am in the recovery mode after the shock of his affair. He bought me a new wedding ring for Valentines in the hopes we could move forward and I would love more than anything to do that. It’s just really hard to move past the 2yrs of lies & all the betrayal & mind games he/they played on me. I am trying to stay committed to my marriage & its an everyday struggle but I am praying one day I can look him in the eyes & say “I forgive you” and really mean it. I would love to hear these promises from him face to face & we are hoping to get to a place this year where we can renew our vows & have a “redo” on our 25th anniversary.


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