How to be an AMAZING Wife.

This is a followup to one of our most popular posts: How to be a Great Husband.

I believe every married woman wants to be the best wife she can be, but it’s hard to have a clear picture of what that really means or looks like.

The media seems to bombard women with conflicting messages about what the “ideal woman” is all about. One moment you’re being told to starve yourself and spend all your time in the gym and salon so you can always look like an airbrushed model on the cover of a magazine. The next moment your role model is a CEO mom who is making millions and still “having it all” by being a wife and mommy too. You flip the channel again and you’re told that an ideal wife makes her own clothes and home schools her 20 kids.

So which one is the “right” picture of womanhood?

I believe that God made every woman masterfully and beautifully unique, so you never need to get caught up in the comparison trap by thinking your life needs to be measured against anyone else’s. I hope that helps you breathe a sigh of relief!

As you live out your beautiful uniqueness in your marriage, here are a few truths that can equip you to take your marriage and family to a new level of health and happiness. While every wife is unique, I believe these truths below apply to everyone, and if you’ll apply these principles within the context of your own personality, I believe you’ll become an even greater wife.

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3 simple ways to be a better wife:

1. Give respect to your husband.

We husbands don’t like to admit it, but we are absolutely desperate for your respect! When we believe that you believe in us, we feel like we can conquer the world, but when we believe you don’t believe in us, we can barely get through the day. Even in those moments when your husband doesn’t “deserve” your respect, give it anyways, and your actions will actually help shape him into the courageous man of character God intended for him to be.

“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33

2. Create a positive tone in the home.

More than any other person in the house, the wife has the power to set the tone in the home, so set a good one! Foster an atmosphere where encouragement, laughter, discipline, hard work, fun, love and grace all flow together in harmony.

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.” Proverbs 31:25-27

3. Fall in love…with God!

The more you love God, the more capacity you will have to love your husband, your kids and yourself. Make your relationship with Him the foundation of your life and everything else will fall into place.

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.” Proverbs 31:30-31

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6 thoughts on “How to be an AMAZING Wife.


  1. Lupe Rodriquez

    How do I  “Foster an atmosphere where encouragement, laughter, discipline, hard work, fun, love and grace all flow together in harmony.” when my husband is extremely sensitive and is not happy if I am not by his side 24/7? It can be stressful when your title of a wife means that you are no longer a woman, a friend, a mom, etc.. For others in your life because he believes and wants us to do everything together 24/7.

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    1. A Kings wife

      Lupe.. The order my husband and I try our best to live by is God first my husband second our kids third then everyone else.. And even tho I can understand what you are going through may be hard.. You can use it to your benefit. Become a team.. Where you are parents together, find couples whom you can both enjoy and be friends with. Honor your husband now… And things will improve. It did for me. Looking at the bright side what a blessing your husband wants to spend time with you. I have been around so many men that will choose to work overtime just so they don’t have to go home to their wives. I hope this helps in some way.


  2. Heather

    Love this! Fathers day last uear, our pastor had a guest female speaker and God had given her a message very similar with what you have said. The woman has the power to persuade her home in whatever direction she chooses, especially in how her children see their father! We want our men to be the men God designed them to be, but a lot of times how we respond (which is what we are…responders) to them is just the opposite. Then what happened is we help create men that are totally opposite of what we want. It’s not all our fault (don’t misunderstand) but we have a lot of power to push them whichever way we choose.

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    1. JA

      With an attitude like that Marie, I see you are really putting effort into #2 and #1. Forget #1, you lost the race at #2, if you are calling him an egotist, that what is your malfunction, or are you perfect? Remember it takes two hands to clap, part of setting the tone would be to drop the judgmental attitude. I’ve realized this in my marriage, I have to work on some things and so does my wife. She won’t admit she needs things to improve and that is part of why we haven’t moved forward. Start speaking life into your relationship, forego words like narcissism and whatever else you may think of and try thoughtful or anything positive. It just might work…

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