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Some BIG announcements

First off, thank you so much for being part of our online community. My wife, Ashley, and I are honored to have the opportunity to send encouragement and marriage-building tools your way and we greatly appreciate the encouraging words you have shared with us as well. We wanted you to be among the first to know about some exciting new developments:

1. Ashley has just launched her new blog at and she’s already written several great posts on marriage and parenting. I think you’ll find her down-to-earth style and humor very refreshing and encouraging. Please connect with her online when you get a chance.

2. Our bestselling book, “iVow: Secrets to a Stronger Marriage” is now available as an audiobook on iTunes by clicking here. We hope this new resource will be another practical way you can be encouraged and equipped in your marriage.

3. I’m excited to announce that I’m working on a new book tentatively entitled The 7 Laws of Love” which will be published by Thomas Nelson Publishers and released in January 2016. I hope this new book encourages a lot of people. I’ll probably be blogging less over the next few months to devote more time to writing the book.

4. Ashley and I are partnering with Craig Gross of to produce a video series designed to help married couples enhance their sex lives. You can get a free sneak preview at

5. We are partnering with to create an online course based on iVow. There will be a version for married couples and a separate edition exclusively for engaged couples to help them prepare for marriage. I’ll let you know as soon as these resources are available.

6. We’re working with our friends at Truth Web Design to create a new Marriage app you’ll be able to put on your smart phone. It will have all of my ebooks preloaded along with daily encouragement from the Marriage facebook page and some cutting-edge messaging features to keep you in constant contact with your spouse. We’ll let you know as so as it’s in the app store.

7. Many of you have asked for updates on Ashley’s pregnancy and I’m happy to report that Ashley is doing great (apart from being tired from pregnancy and chasing around three rambunctious boys)! Thanks for all your prayers and encouraging words. We’ll be posting plenty of pics of baby Chatham when we arrives in February.

Thank you again for your encouragement and support. If you haven’t already, please subscribe to our email list at the top of this page for continuing updates and a free marriage ebook download and you can also connect with me on twitter by clicking here. You guys rock.

Dave Willis Ashley Willis family kids

Sending love from Dave, Ashley, Cooper, Connor, Chandler and Chatham (arriving February 2015). :)

7 ways couples can harm their marriage without even realizing it.

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As I’ve interacted with couples from all over the world, I’ve found that many of the issues that ultimately lead to infidelity and divorce happen by accident. People don’t usually set out to sabotage their marriage and wind up in divorce court, but small choices can ultimately lead to big disasters. Subtle poor choices along the way can pile up like a snowball rolling down a hill until it’s big enough to start an avalanche of consequences.

Below are seven of the most common ways people can harm their marriage (sometimes without even realizing it). Avoid these and you’ll be safeguarding your marriage.

(In no particular order):

1. Not wearing a wedding ring.

People might just not be into jewelry or not think it’s a big deal, but wearing a ring can be a first line of defense against adultery. For more practical reasons to wear your ring, check out our hugely popular (and somewhat controversial) post on Three reasons to wear your wedding ring.

2. Digital distractions.

Sometimes I give my iPhone more attention than I give my wife, and that can’t happen! Do your best to keep screens turned off as much as possible when you’re together with your spouse. Talking with your spouse is always better than texting with somebody else (or playing Candy Crush, or checking facebook, etc.).

3. Inconsistency in parenting.

Raising kids is one of the most sacred duties on earth, but it can also harm your marriage if you don’t have a unified approach with your spouse. Ashley and I don’t argue much, but many (if not most) of our disagreements have come out of miscommunications about parenting. For more on this, check out our post on 7 ways parents can harm their children without even realizing it.

4. Flirting.

This one is two-fold, because we harm our marriages when we STOP flirting with our spouse or when we START flirting with anybody else! Flirting within marriage is always helpful, but flirting outside of your marriage is always harmful!

5. Porn (and/or graphic romance novels).

Many couples think porn is a harmless fantasy that can actually spice things up in the bedroom if they watch it together, but the truth is that porn is an enemy of real intimacy. For more on this, check out our post The Truth about Porn.

6. Autopilot.

Cable TV companies give their best rates and service at the beginning but then treat you much worse after the “promotional period” expires. Sadly, many marriages look like this. We give each other our best at the beginning of the relationship, but then get into “autopilot” and stop giving each other our best.

7. Negative friends.

Your friends have the unique ability to encourage your marriage or to discourage your marriage. Make sure you’re hanging out with people who love you AND love your spouse. Choose friends who will strengthen your character and remove yourself from people who would tempt you to compromise your character.

For more tools to help you build a rock-solid marriage, please check out our newest book, Marriage Minute: Quick & Simple Ways to Build a Divorce-Proof Relationship which is now also available on iTunes as an ebook download for iPhones, iPads and all Apple devices by clicking here.



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